multiple times this weekend i have entered into conversations about conventional beauty.
i think as a society we do a real disservice to women by categorically putting them in two camps: the conventionally beautiful and the, ‘gifted’…
women are taught to rely on their looks: oh, you don’t need to study that, you’re pretty. it’s ingrained that the path of the conventionally beautiful is to be uninteresting but lovely.
or women are taught to rely on their gifts: you have talent, you’re smart, you don’t have to worry about your looks.
this thought that we only come in two varieties starts at birth and the gap seems to widen as we get older blasting into hyper mode when entering puberty and the dreaded social structure of middle school.
a-it is possible to be categorically beautiful, wickedly intelligent, and talented.
b-it is blatant girl on girl crime that we, ‘hate’ women who are both conventionally beautiful and gifted.
c-we need to shift societies perspective of beauty. why isn’t a sized 28 woman beautiful? why do we not see more women of color in fashion magazines? shouldn’t we not have to break down barriers anymore? i mean, really?
d-why do we as women allow this power over us?
rise up. if we demand that more of us are represented in media…inevitably we will be represented in the media. yes, it might not happen soon, but, it will happen. money wields power and if you stop supporting the douchebaggery of the world (i’m looking at you lululemon) the douchebags suffer.
this was put painfully into perspective for me this weekend when someone said to me, ‘one of the things i respect most about you is the way you talk about your body’…i politely accepted what was clearly intended to be a compliment. however, what i wanted to say is whether you know it or not, when you say that to me, you imply that i should be ashamed of my body. that i should associate fat with ugly. that i should think of myself as lesser than. that somehow my beauty as a person, factoring out what i actually look like, is diminished because of my weight.
…well, that’s bullshit.
oh, and while i support the idea and spirit of the eff your beauty standards campaign…i think i just want to start a new one called change your beauty standards. eff small mindedness.